Russian Girls
Tutorial:
Russian Girls for Marriage
 by
Elena Petrova (Elena's
Models)
Russian girls take
marriage VERY seriously... for Russian girls, marriage is more
important than a career.
A Russian girl will
sacrifice her career to save her marriage, or, as in the case with many Russian
girls from Elena's Models,
she will be even prepared to sacrifice her country, her culture and close family
ties to have a happy marriage.
I need to emphasize that
most Russian girls seeking marriage don't specifically seek
a "foreign husband", they seek the right partner.
Since recently, we have
started to ask Russian girls during our usual intake interview WHY they
are seeking a husband abroad and most of Russian girls say they are
seeking a partner on our site simply to broaden their search because they
could not find the right man at home.
(Read on to find out what
Russian girls mean by "the right man")
When you contact
Russian girls on our site, you will quickly realize that Russian girls
for marriage are not after your passport or country simply because many of
them will say "NO" when you contact them... if all Russian girls
wanted was to immigrate, all girls would say "YES" to anyone!
But this is certainly not the case; they do have requirements and it's not
just where you live. (In fact, many Russian
women seeking husbands would be happy if you moved to live with them
in Russia)
When reading profiles
of Russian girls, you will see how much emphasis they put on marriage
and family.
By the way, in Russian
language the phrase "create a family" actually means "get
married" and when a Russian girl says "I want to create a
family" what she actually means is "I want to get
married".
It's just the way it works
in the language that through the history a married couple was considered
to be a "family" even if they didn't have any children; so in
Russian "creating a family" is a more upmarket expression for
"getting married"; in the same way "getting education"
compares to "studying in a college".
I.e. "creating a
family" means the fact of official marriage (as opposed to simply
living together or dating) and not the birth of children in the Russian
language.
If you want to meet a
Russian girl FOR MARRIAGE, or as she would say, "to create a
family", she will be very happy to hear from you (if you meet her
requirements, most importantly the age).
Russian
girls are usually open to meeting men who are older, from 5 years
older to 20-25 years older, if it's for marriage. One of the reasons for
that is that men who are older are more mature and also they usually have
a better financial standing in life and can provide for the family.
Russian girls will usually
want to have children in the marriage, because this is what makes the
"family" complete (although a married couple, a husband and a
wife, are already a "family" by definition of Russian language,
as explained above).
In Russia and other
countries of the former Soviet Union single girls usually get married at a
young age, often at 18-19 years of age while still studying in college.
Not many Russian girls graduate from college single; college is certainly
more of a place to find a husband and marriage for Russian girls than a
preparation for a future career.
This is because in
Russian culture the social emphasis for a woman is on her function as a
WIFE and a MOTHER, as compared to a man's function as a PROVIDER for a
family.
This is why for Russian
girls marriage is more important than a career because it gives her
fulfillment and social meaning; without a husband she doesn't feel
"worthy" by Russian cultural standards.
This is why you can see on
our site so many Russian girls who are models,
artists, medical
doctors and other professionals (accountants, lawyers, engineers,
scientists etc) - these girls are accomplished in their careers but
without having a marriage and a husband they don't feel 100% happy.
Finding
a husband in Russia and Ukraine is not easy for women, with huge
demographic disproportions between men and women: official statistics
confirm there are only 87 men for 100 women, but from our communication
with women they feel there is only 1 available man for 4-5 single women
(which is understandable because most girls get married early and not many
single men are left for the girls who haven't got married in college).
If you haven't found a good
man for marriage by the time you graduate from a college, than as a
Russian girl you will have a hard time trying to find a partner.
This is why many Russian
girls who are college students list their profiles on our site,
because they feel time is ticking out for them and they need to be
proactive to secure a good husband.
So, a good husband is a
prized commodity for Russian girls and if you are ready to fulfill the
most important man's mission which is to provide for your future family
(having a stable job will do), then Russian girls will be open to meeting
you, but only with the purpose of future marriage.
So, what you need to
emphasize in your profile (and your first letter to her):
-
You are looking for
MARRIAGE ("to create a family").
-
You can provide for your
future family.
-
You are ready to have
children in the marriage.
-
You will be a loyal
husband and will not leave her for a younger woman once she has your
child or children.
What if you don't want to
have children in the marriage?
In this case, try to find a
Russian girl who already has a child, and some 20-something girls on our
site have children.
If you don't want to have
children and you don't want to look after her children, then your options
are to meet women who have grown up children, which means usually from 35
years old and up. In this case, a woman may be content not to have any
more children in her new marriage.
You see, the desire of
Russian girls to find marriage is so strong that they are prepared to
reach their goal even if it's overseas and they would have to leave their
country and family behind - certainly not all Russian girls are prepared
to go to such lengths, but some of them (Russian
girls on our site) are.
But this is why the other
side of the medal is that these Russian girls want to have children in
a marriage; it's part of the same cultural model: marriage is
important but once you are married, you should have children in a
marriage, maybe not straight away but within 4-5 years time frame.
But if a Russian girl
already has a child, then her primary motivation is to find (1) a good
husband for her PLUS (2) a good step-father for her child.
Many Russian girls have a
child "for themselves", without a husband or a long-term
partner, because they feel they may not be able to find a partner for
marriage and want at least to have a child, to realize themselves
as a mother if they could not realize themselves as a wife.
If you read profiles of Russian
girls and Russian
women carefully, you will cleary see these inner dynamics I am talking
about here.
The motivation of Russian
girls in a marriage is very different to western girls: a Russian girl
will sacrifice her career to help her man in his career or business; while
a western girl will probably prefer to pursue her career rather than
sacrificing it for her partner.
Most Russian girls in Russia
work outside their homes and contribute to the family's budget, oftentimes
being the sole provider and the husband doesn't work. Russian girls don't
like to be a situation like this and this is why when a Russian girl
ventures to find a marriage abroad, she wants to ensure you can provide
for a family. Which doesn't mean she is not willing to contribute, but
only that she wants to ensure you will be working as well.
There are some Russian girls
who want to find a wealthy man to provide for them but they are rather an
exception.
You will find most Russian
girls see their future marriage as an equal partnership and many Russian
girls specifically state they want to continue working and don't want to
be just housewives, they want to realize themselves both in the family and
the career - but family always comes first for Russian girls.
I hope you now have a better
understanding of Russian girls for marriage:
-
What you should put in
your profile if you want Russian girls to write to you and respond
positively to your EOI's and mails;
-
What kind of Russian
girl is right for you;
-
What Russian girls
expect from a man in a marriage.
Good luck!
With my best wishes,
Elena
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Petrova is the
founder and CEO of the online dating site www.ElenasModels.com
introducing Russian girls seeking western men for marriage.
She has a degree in philosophy
and have appeared on many TV shows and in media.
Her agency Elena's Models
features more than 200,000 active profiles from 176 countries of the
world and is bringing Russian girls and western men together since 1999.
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After
being a member of Elena's Models for about 3 months and written to many
girls, I received a letter from Elena. I replied, and the sparks started
flying from there. 