RUSSIAN WOMEN Q&A:
Russian Women Seek Western men
Lina*, 29 – manager from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek foreign men
My friend married a foreigner. They are very happily married and as they say, they live in perfect harmony. I think that foreign men are more courteous and gallant.
Ludmila*, 37 – medical worker from Kemerovo, Russia (college graduate, widowed with 1 child): Why I started seeking a husband abroad
Hello! How I started seeking a husband abroad, it just happened – I installed Internet at home. I didn’t have much luck in my love life for a long time and one of my girlfriends, for already a few years, tried to convince me to look for a partner abroad, telling me about a mutual friend who, at the age of 37 and having a teenage son and lots of bad experiences with Russian men, got married to an American man and is now very happy. I registered on your site last year and I got lucky straight away; I met a man from UK. I got the visa for UK and spent 3 months there, and… came back. I realized that I didn’t really love him; simply not my man. A few months after I came back, I decided to reinstall my profile on your site; this time with much more determination. I realized that 'beginners luck' exists! I am 37 and I am alone for 13, despite the fact that I have other people around me. I had the chance to experience how lazy, stingy and impotent, morally and physically, are our Russian men. And regarding western men, through my experience, I have a much better opinion. So, I am going to look for 'my' western man until I find him!
Svetlana*, 37 – travel agent from Moscow, Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): Why Russian women seek foreign men
Why… In our country men of my age are either married or drink too much. Look at our men 'over 45'… most often you will see big beer bellies and lazy faces. You can add to it being spoiled by women's attention, 'come and entertain me'… Yes, there are good men in Russia but they are probably all in museums behind a thick glass… )))
Lena*, 28 – administrator from Far East of Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): Why I am seeking a husband from another country
I decided to try to find a husband from another country because I like western men’s attitude towards women.
Kate*, 42 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids):why I decided to seek a foreign man
First of all, I want to thank you for understanding and support. Unfortunately, I had a bad experience. The man I met was dishonest. That mistake allowed me to understand many things and re-evaluate my search. I read many happy stories. I am very happy for them:)) So, why I decided to seek a husband abroad? Because I thought long and hard. You know Russian men, what they are like! Of course I don’t want to idealize western men. My friends married foreigners and they are happy. Your agency was highly recommended as a place where people seek serious relationships and I want to meet a good man for marriage. Although I see men and women seek different things… It’s not easy to find the right person but I think possible:) Frankly speaking, after my heartbreaking story, I wanted to close my profile but your support and understanding helped me to find faith to continue my search. I don’t lose hope that I will be able to meet a good man and be happy! Thank you very much for your help.
Julia*, 26 – teacher from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): Why Russian women seek husbands abroad
I decided to seek a husband abroad because at home, I mean in my country, I couldn’t find the right man. I was very unlucky; the men I met were dishonest. I don’t know what is going to come out of it, but I do have friends and family members who married foreigners and they are happy in their marriages. This is why I decided to try it as well; why not?
Natalia*, 22 – economist from Belarus (university graduate, never married, no kids): Why Russian women seek foreign men
I decided to seek a husband on this site because our men don’t value women, don’t pay much attention to us and in general, aren’t suitable! Foreign men are more attentive, sincere and cultured! For them a woman is indeed a fragile creature who needs care, affection, attention, love and knowing that her man needs her like air! Thank you!
Alena*, 35 – manager from Ukraine (college graduate speaking 4 languages, never married, no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
I seek a husband abroad because I want my future children to have the opportunity to live in a free civilized country, and also from my own personal experience I know that foreign men are more cultured, goal oriented and financially stable as compared to our local men, which means they are better candidates for marriage.
Ana*, 38 – manager from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child):
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Irina*, 42 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why I seek foreign men
I believe that my one and only man who needs me and who will be right for me can live in any country, and not only in Russia. I am learning English to be able to communicate, to understand and be understood by a man from another country. I hope that a man who is seeking a foreign wife will be an unordinary person and that he is very active in his search for his special woman in this world.
Kate*, 45 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child):
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Natasha*, 35 – economist from St. Petersburg, Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids):
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Helena*, 34 – manager from Uzbekistan (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
Why did I decide to seek a husband abroad? Because I like western mentality and I find “common language” with western men quickly. In other words, after my first romance with a foreign man all men from post-Soviet sphere became totally disinteresting to me.
Lubov*, 39 – manager from Moscow, Russia (never married, no kids):
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Irina, 36 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, divorced, no kids): why I decided to look for a foreign husband
I decided to look for a foreign husband because today’s Russian men are “spoiled goods”. Russian men have poor manners, they have no respect to women, they are egoistic and overly materialistic. Foreign men have a good taste, can admire a woman like a work of art, sincerely respect a woman; they have good education and manners. This is why I decided to seek a husband abroad and I hope I can do it on your site!
Elaine*, 25 – manager from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids):
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Liudmila, 27 – manager from Canada (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I decided to find a husband abroad
The reason why I've decided to find a husband abroad is very simple. Because I've been living in North America for almost 3 year now and can't imagine having relationships with a man from my home country or having a family back there. That would be kind of extreme :) I think for this time I’ve changed a lot and can't just live the life women in our countries live. Hope I gave you a reasonable answer. Good luck with your research!!!!
Natalie, 37 – medical nurse from Ukraine (college graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
It’s a well-known fact that women outnumber men in my country. So, the first reason is that there are not enough men of marriageable age. Men here are not as healthy and often are alcoholics (which is a very serious problem), so they die earlier. Besides hard drinking, our men also have many other “lovable” qualities: they are lazy, unfaithful, have no aspirations or goals… and the ones who are exceptions are usually already married. Another reason is because of instability in Ukraine and I want stability, happiness and a good life for my child. Unfortunately, in today’s Ukraine I can’t hope for that. I believe there is nothing wrong in wanting a good life. I don’t have to stay alone or be with a man I don’t like. I don’t think that I betray my homeland by seeking a husband abroad. Every person has the right to happiness and a good life.
Kate*, 37 – veterinarian from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I want to meet foreign men
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Lilia*, 47 – bookkeeper from Moscow (university graduate, divorced with a grown up son): why I seek foreign men
My profile is on your site already for a while. I am thinking about closing it. I could not find a partner in Russia and hoped I would be able to find him here, but no luck :( My age is not in high demand unfortunately.
Galina*, 29 - teacher from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
I decided to seek a husband abroad because:
Elena*, 45 – manager from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
Using this opportunity, I want to say thank you for the great site. It’s wonderful that you are not just doing business but also fulfill the Mission of uniting lonely people across the globe with love and kindness. Thank you very much for this!!!
I decided to seek a husband abroad after one of my colleagues had a relationship with a man from UK. It inspired me to seek my own love and happiness.
Fiona*, 49 – medical doctor from Russia (university graduate, divorced, no kids): why I seek a foreign man
I just want to have a chance to meet a suitable man. I don’t meet many men in my home town Novosibirsk, working as a doctor in out-patient department for children, spending vacations at home or at my country side home, plus my mature age. I had several interesting communications with foreign men in 2010-2011 and these men were intelligent and stable. Certainly, such men live in my city, too, but there are too few opportunities for contacts (for the reasons above) and besides, such men are usually already married. As for foreign men, I would like them to be more flexible seeking understanding and agreement. I met one man in May 2011 but it didn’t work out. So, I am seeking again.
Kate*, 32 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a western man
I want to share why I seek a western man. Initially the reason was very simple: Russian men weren’t interested in me. I mean normal, educated, “quality” men, with whom I could build a serious relationship. I don’t know what was wrong with me but I had no interest from men at all. It was heartbreaking. 2 years ago I was living Czech Republic and saw genuine interest in me from Czech and other foreign men. And what about Russian men, I feel they are very spoiled and all want a blonde beauty with large breasts. I met Russian men in Czech Republic, too; still the same attitude. Well, and now, I don’t want Russian men either!
Julia*, 42 – secretary from Ukraine (college graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I am seeking a husband abroad
Why am I seeking a husband abroad? Because Russian/ Ukrainian men of my age (over 40) don’t want to get married and don’t want responsibility.
Alex*, 46 – medical doctor from Ukraine (PhD, divorced with a grown up child): why I seek foreign men
I am divorced for more than 15 years; during which I wrote my PhD. Learned English etc. But unfortunately, I haven’t met my special man. It’s not my first time on your site; I had two serious relationships with men from your site (not at the same time!:)) With one of them it was a really big love; probably, mostly from my side. I have a good career and good life in my country but I am not afraid to leave this all behind for a man I love.
Gina*, 42 – manager from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
The reasons why I seek a husband abroad:
Natasha*, 47 – accountant from Russia (university graduate, divorced with grown up child): why I seek a foreign husband
I would be happy with a Russian husband. But could not find one so far. So, I had to expand my search.
Jane*, 36 – lawyer from Latvia (university graduate, divorced with children): why I seek western men and foreign men
I am disappointed in our men. They forgot how to be men. Everything is on women’s shoulders. We women have to earn money, look after kids, clean the house, cook the dinner, and serve him… I am too tired. I had a work experience in Norway and got the impression that men there are more hardworking and responsible. And take it easier with alcohol. Our men are saturated with it… That’s all in short.
Vika*, 25 – lawyer from Kiev, Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek foreing men
I’ll be happy to share my answer to your question, “Why....?” It’s very simple: I want a better future for my future children, which I don’t envision any time soon in Ukraine. The mentality and values of foreign men, their upbringing and family values seem more acceptable to me than local men’s.
Irene*, 39 – business owner from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
Disappointment in Russian men (lack of responsibility, stinginess, egoism, lack of reliability, alcoholism etc) makes it impossible to build a normal life for my child and myself. Those are the main reasons.
Catherine*, 48 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, never married with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
I am not 18 and I understand that one can’t build life just on the basis of love alone. I hope to find respect and understanding in my marriage. I seek family values. In our men I could not find it.
Alina*, 42 - psychologist from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I want to marry a foreign man
I want to marry a foreign man for a very simple reason: the level of life in Belarus (salaries and the general economical and political situation) is far from acceptable. But saying that, I want to meet a man who I would really love and build a family with, and not just move from Belarus.
Olga*, 30 – economist from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek western men
To say it frankly and openly, as a mother caring for my child, I came to the conclusion that in this country there is nothing I can offer him… this was the first and possibly main reason why I accept the potential risk and complexity connected with a move to another country. The second reason, I feel that western men are more educated and cultured than our men; or to express it better, there are more educated and cultured men among westerners. Or maybe it’s just our stereotypes. Still, I have friends who married foreign men and they are happy and none of them regrets the decision they made. That’s about it:)
Liz*, 34 – manager from Russia (university graduate, divorced with no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
I seek a husband abroad because I don’t want to live in Russia and can’t find a reasonable man here to marry.
Jenny*, 48 – (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why want to meet a western man
1) Women SIGNIFICANTLY outnumber men in Russia, although the official statistics says it’s not so.
Dina*, 48 – medical doctor from Dubai (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why I seek a western man
I will try to answer your question as honestly as I can. I live and work overseas for many years but don’t have much spare time. When I visit Russia once a year I realize that my values changed completely and many things typical for Russian life are no longer acceptable for me. The last drop was the loss of hope in a man who I was waiting for 8 years. He lost himself and the desire to create a family. Family values aren’t interesting to him. I am very tired of being alone and I started to see the things that I could not find in him in other men who are working in Dubai, western men. For them their family is their top priority; this is why I decided to seek a western man.
Olga*, 51 - architect from Russia (university graduate, divorced with grown up children): why Russian women join international dating sites
I think the reason why women join international dating sites is very simple and obvious; at least for me. But first of all I would like to say a big thank you for all your care and attention. You always can support and give advice, how and what to do and what not. Thank you for this, for your kind words and friendly help. You made me believe in possibility of a change and I hope I am getting very close.
Svetlana*, 34 – flight attendant from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
Personally I seek a husband abroad because I work as a flight attendant for 10 years and as such spend a lot of time abroad. I understood how different are Slavic men from western men: our men are lazy, drink a lot, don’t look after their health, and most of them don’t consider a woman an equal partner. Men of my generation whose youth was in 1990’s, could not find their place after dissolution of the USSR and degraded morally and socially. Also because I am used to working hard and developing myself, and I can speak good English, why not discover new opportunities?
Natalia*, 53 – engineer from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with grown up children):
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Viola*, 51 – real estate manager from Ukraine (college graduate, divorced with grown up children): why I decided to seek a man abroad
You ask why I decided to seek a man abroad? It’s very simple: foreign men have a completely different upbringing and attitude to the woman they love! For them, family is the most important and they will stand for their women. They are also stable and can make a woman happy when they love her!
Anna*, 38 – medical nurse from Russia (college graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek western men
I am a medical nurse. My husband and I divorced when my son was 3. My husband refused to help to look after our son because he immediately re-married and started a new family. My son is now 17. He is a university student. My parents were helping me all these years, so that we not only could survive but also to give my son musical education, as he has great musical ear and voice. I would not be able to do it alone; my salaries would not be enough to pay for that. I want to be able to work and be paid adequately, so that I could provide for my child and myself. And at last, I want to meet a reliable, loving man. For all those years I could not meet such a man here.
Bella*, 49 – teacher from Russia (PhD, divorced with grown up children): why I search for a husband abroad
I want to answer your question about search for a husband abroad. The reason is very simple and natural. I don’t have a Russian boyfriend. And never had. I got married at 23 after we knew each other for 1 month. I call this period “penal servitude”. My husband didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, and didn’t love me.
A western man can have some shortcomings but being a westerner, he is more flexible and I can compromise. But I am afraid I am doing something wrong. Men don’t write to me on your site. I am listed on another site, where men write to me, but not here. But I have a friend who men her husband through your site, which is a fact of life and I believe it more than empty letters on the other site.
I am not looking for a foreign husband. It’s just here I have a possibility to meet someone…
Elena*, 56 – engineer from Russia (university graduate, divorced with grown up kids): why I seek a western man
1. Because in Russia there are very few men of my age that meet my requirements: a good education, healthy life style, good manners, and who can treat a woman of my age as a woman and not as a granny.
Irina*, 32 – manager from Ukraine (gollege graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
Why did I decide to seek a husband abroad? I’ll try to answer… I think that men abroad have the opportunity to live a fuller life, in all respects. Accommodation, financially – that’s clear and obvious. But it’s also important that a person whose basic needs are satisfied will have more desire and ability to develop him or herself. I feel western people are more open and happy; they aren’t aggravated by constant daily problems. They have more opportunities to take care of their families and children. I want my son to live in a normal country, with effective laws, fair salaries, where one can own a home… I believe I will find my love. I am a mature woman who knows what she wants and I am ready to give all my love and care to a good man.
Nina*, 42 – lawyer from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
I seek a husband abroad because I seek him everywhere! In Russia and abroad.
Lena*, 42 – business owner (PhD, never married, no kids):
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Galya, 32* – journalist from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I am seeking a husband abroad
Why am I seeking a husband abroad? I have an answer to this question; will be happy if it can be useful. My answer is honest and sincere and is a result of many life experiences.
Once a foreign man ask me, why in your beautiful and rich country, with all its amazing history and culture, all men drink and don’t care about their children and all women want to leave. Of course the answer I gave was politically correct; I don’t want to damage the prestige of our great and mighty Mother-Russia. But for ourselves, we know the answer to this question very well. And it’s hard to make peace with it. The reason why it’s like this is because in our country we are disposable. It’s “big politics” but its decisions affect millions of lives of small people. It’s an economic structure in which we have been “placed”. I will tell you a big secret. I have a second degree as a lawyer and my specialty was the family law. I followed the development and transition of the Russian family law throughout the whole 20th century: in the beginning of the century human and personal aspects were the most important, now it’s financial. It used to be that the accent was on ensuring that the marriage would be long and strong, to avoid circumstances that can damage or weaken the marriage. NOW THE NEWLYWEDS, BEFORE EVEN ENTERING THE MARRIAGE, ALREADY DISCUSS HOW THEY ARE GOING TO DEVIDE THE PROPERTY WHEN THEY BREAK UP. Consumerism, the cult of material replaced feelings and soul. We became robots. A woman simply has to be a provider, a general in a skirt. She also has to always watch out and stay alert. Because masculinity degraded and men are not only incapable to look after us and protect us; it’s men who are trying to live from women.
Here is a poem of Naum Korzhavin; I think it’s quite appropriate.
I like the natural order of the things. I want to feel like a woman. I want to see next to me a real man. Strong, reliable, with whom I can go through life without fear. Of course I know that it’s not all milk and honey abroad. There are different people, with their personalities, strengths and weaknesses. But still… She’s a stubborn girl, lady Hope.
Polina*, 41 – manager from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
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Tonya*, 28 – waiter from Russia (never married with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
I seek husband abroad because of the following reasons:
1. All my friends and girlfriends are married; there are no unmarried men around me.
That’s basically it.
Elena*, 34 – accountant from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids):
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Sonya*, 37 – manager from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids):
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Tanya*, 37 – government employee (university graduate, never married, no kids):
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Anastasia*, 42 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek western men
I think Elena you know why Russian women seek husbands abroad; you went through this yourself. Certainly, no one is expecting a Prince on a White Horse. Certainly, there are good and bad men in any country. However… the proportions of good and bad men abroad differ from such proportions in Russia. Foreign men didn’t forget that a woman is a gentle and fragile creature that needs care. They are more responsible and love children more than Russian fathers. And since my heart is free and I can seek a future husband and father of my children anywhere, I’d rather seek him abroad than here.
Of course it’s important that other countries don’t have so many social cataclysms as Russia. Life in western countries is more stable and predictable. The lessons of revolutions that were learned centuries ago are still remembered. The average person is more cultured than in Russia.
I also have an example of a friend who is married a European man. She already has 2 children and is happy in her marriage. Of course there are some issues with adaptation in the country and learning to live together with a new partner; but this all goes pretty easy when the man cares about the woman and his children and truly loves them. No alcoholism, no omni-permeating smoking, swearing in public and in family. You know yourself.
That’s all I can say. Although personally, I have not had much luck in my search. Probably, because of my age. I can’t visit other countries because I am a single carer of my son, who father prefers to avoid his son and don’t pay child support (thanks to the government which doesn’t do anything about it and many companies still have “white” official and “black” cash salary payouts). I have to work two jobs to provide a good education for my son.
Tamara*, 45 – teacher from Russia (widowed with a grown up child): why I seek a husband abroad
Thank you very much for all your help that you give to us women. I still hope to find my special man, so I am looking for him abroad. My friends married men from America and Australia and they are happy, which is the most important! I am very happy for them and I want to find my simple woman’s happiness, a cozy home, a man who I know will be always there for me, and marriage bliss! I know it’s a big job but I am doing my best; without much luck so far… I hope for the best; that it’s going to be better; but so far only empty correspondence…
Julia*, 34 – designer from Russia (university graduate, divorced with no kids):
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Masha*, 25 – manager from Ukraine (college graduate, divorced with 1 child):
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Larisa*, 33 – manager (university graduate, never married, no kids):
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Olya*, 24 – teacher from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
I decided to seek a husband abroad because I feel that our men are spoiled by women’s attention; women don’t know what else to do to attract a man, whatever you do it’s not enough! Men absolutely don’t value the beauty of our women when foreign men thing we are all models! I feel like a queen when a man treats you like a queen, shower with compliments…… so, many different reasons. Another one is the desire of western men to create a family because their women are not ready to have children at the age of 25-30. I think these are the most important reasons!
Natali*, 30 – economist from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why Russian women seek men abroad
I want to share my answer why women seek men abroad. Because western men are brought up with different moral values. Western culture doesn’t condone men’s infidelity and it’s not as wide spread as in Russia, where it’s viewed as nearly normal, and it’s expected from a wife to forgive her cheating husband and continue to live together as if nothing happened. Russian women blame their husband’s lovers for his infidelity and not put the blame on the man, this is where it’s coming from. I hope my answer helps.
Alice*, 28 – manager from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek a husband abroad
I decided to seek a husband abroad because the average level of life of a western man is much higher than the level of a local man.
Marina*, 25 - student from Russia (never married, no kids):
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Katerina*, 29 – Chef from Ukraine (college graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I am seeking a man abroad
I started my search for a man abroad because some of my friends married foreign men and they are happily married to them for many years. According to my friends, foreign men value Slavic women because they do their best for the family and take a good care of their husbands. I dream about a man who will love me and value me. I believe that love is above boundaries, distances and age differences.
Tina*, 27 – Business owner from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
I came to the idea of seeking a husband abroad because I can’t meet a normal man in Ukraine, not even one! In my opinion our men are overly relaxed, they stopped thinking about providing for their families, about paying attention to their wives and children, about respecting a woman and treating her like a queen! When I meet western men I see their manners and how they treat women, and I feel sad for my country. This is why I am interested in meeting a man who I would love and cherish, who would be very special for me and I will be special for him… and they lived happily ever after).
Natasha*, 36 – lawyer from Russia (university graduate speaking 4 languages, divorced with 1 child): why I am interested in western men
I am interested in men from Western Europe and Northern America. Their men are not as spoiled by women’s attention and care like Russian men; western men are family oriented. The countries have less crime and better ecology, fair pensions. And I want to smile happily every day like foreigners do; this relaxed semi-smile and open face expression is better than any explanations:) Of course there are some ‘minuses’ in the western life, but you asked why I am seeking a foreign man and not what’s stopping me. You have a great site, thank you very much! Good luck to everyone including me!:)
Nina*, 28 – bookkeeper from Russia (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a western man
Because I can’t find my man and happiness in Russia!
Tanya*, 47 - engineer from Russia (university graduate, divorced with grown up children): why I seek a man abroad
I decided to seek my man abroad because here in Russia all my contacts with men are mostly at work, which occupies most of my time. And affairs at work are not my style. Just as well, I love Europe; I have been there many times and I would like to live this life, where men are different and value and love women.
Christina*, 39 – medical doctor from Ukraine (divorced with 1 child): why I want to meet a foreign man
What’s the difference, where is your special man from? He maybe a foreigner, a Russian, a Ukrainian… Woman’s happiness is her family, based on love, partnership and mutual understanding, and her children. Career, success and friends are just an addition to that. And whether he is Russian man or a western man, doesn’t matter.
Svetlana*, 48 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why Russian women seek foreign men
I can answer your question “Why Russian women seek foreign men?” with my question: why CAN’T they seek foreign men? Everywhere men are men and women are women. If we have such possibilities to choose and search, why not??? As I was helping some of my friends and gave advice, as I know English well, I noticed how our Russian women liked the attention from western men who they corresponded with. The men wrote almost every day and used so many kind and warm words, the ones that all women need! It looked like a romantic correspondence and I had letters like these from men, too, and I understand women.
Bella*, 46 – lawyer from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with no kids): why I seek foreign men
I started seeking foreign men by chance. My colleague suggested me to place my profile on a dating site to meet new people. She said, “You speak fluent English, so talk to people, find some friends, as well as practice your English. Well, practicing my English, I got enough of that, so now I can distinguish accents by country and state:) I found not only new friends by a husband as well. I was married to an American for 5 years. Unfortunately, my marriage didn’t work out, so at the end of the day we divorced. I am now searching again. What if I got lucky and find an understanding and loving husband, who I will love until the end of the days? Anything can happen. And if I don’t find my match, new meetings and friends are a good thing, too. I have several friends among the men that I met online, all over the world. We talk often and stay friends.
Sandra*, 30 – teacher from Russia (university graduate, divorced with no kids): why I decided to seek a husband abroad
I think my decision to seek a husband abroad is not any different to other Russian women. First of all, because I have had an experience of marriage to a Russian man and I am now divorced. Second, there are many happy stories where people met online. Third, I really want to find MUTUAL relationship, which in Russia happens extremely rare. I’d like to hope that your site can help me to make my dreams come true and I will find a man who can make me happy. Thank you for your site!
Victoria*, 29 – (university graduate speaking 5 languages, divorced with 1 child): why I am looking for a partner abroad
If someone asked me, why are you looking for a partner abroad, I would answer: “Who said that my soul mate must live next door?” Marriage to a foreigner, a woman comes to these words when she understands that her life and destiny can’t be limited by the territorial boundaries of her neighborhood, hometown or even home country. Why marry just anyone? It’s better to broaden your search and find your true match in this world. There is nothing magic in these words; the magic is in the power of love. Marriage to a foreigner sometimes can open new opportunities for women – to see the world and enjoy your feelings. To marry a man who you really love and who shares your values and complements you in life, and it doesn’t matter if he is a foreigner.
So, why not? It’s possible to find your love and happiness abroad! The average life expectancy of male population is significantly shorter than female’s and physically all women simply cannot be married, simply because there are not enough men for all the women. And if you consider eternal Russian problems with alcohol, as well as poor health system and rampant unemployment, etc…
The desire of Russian women to find their female’s happiness is absolutely normal. They don’t have to stay alone or marry anyone just to get married, and they are not “betraying” their country. Every person has the right to be happy and live a good life. And if I could not find a good husband here, no one can order me to stop trying to find my happiness “abroad”, with foreign men.
Julia*, 32 – banker from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with 1 child):
why I seek a husband abroad
Hanna*, 44 – journalist from Moscow (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why I am on this site
I came to your site because of my friend’s advice, when I found out she met a man from Sweden and had been living there for 2 years. I thought it was great and decided to join. A former classmate of mine met a foreign man and married him as well. I asked her why she decided to seek a husband abroad, she said: "Because in Russia that are 5 men for 10 women, and from those five, 3 are already married, and 2 are drinkers or impotent."
Personally, after corresponding with many men from various countries and websites (including Elena’s Models), I decided that seeking a foreign husband/partner/supporter in life is not worth it. Just a waste of time. You want to know why? Because I hate lies. And communication with foreign men is full of lies. Who are they (each of them) are looking for? I don’t know. Everyone seeks different things… Someone seeks a diving partner; someone asked me if I play golf (are you for real, all people in Russia play ice hockey since childhood!) Someone asked me how much money I make (sorry, are you looking for a woman? Or…) and letters from men who write that at the age of 59 and surrounded by a pack of dogs and grandchildren he is “looking for love of his life”… it’s just ridiculous!
I tried to change my profile and included in requirements that I am “looking for a Russian man living abroad”; I was hoping that a man closer to me by culture might work out… it didn’t. What I found out is that Russian men living abroad are a bunch of arrogant bastards, even if they have a degree in political sciences!
I guess I will be soon writing a book, “How I Searched for a Husband Abroad”; I have lots of material for that. Thank you for the opportunities and learning experiences.
Galina*, 26 - teacher from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids):
why I seek a foreign husband
Inna*, 44 – designer from USA (college graduate, divorced with no kids): why I am looking for an American husband
I am looking for an American husband because I live in the USA for 20 years and have no other extended family.
Maya*, 33 – librarian from Belarus (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I am seeking a partner abroad
Who knows, where is your “second half” in this world? Maybe not in your home country at all…..:)))
Eugenia*, 47 – manager from Russia (university graduate, divorced with no kids): why I am seeking a husband abroad
There are a few reasons why I am here seeking a husband abroad. I am a psychologist and will try to answer you professionally. First, a lot depends on the area where the woman lives, the level of men who live and work there, and the general life standards of the region. My level is different to where I live; I don’t like local men because of their poor morals and values. I am not old-fashioned; I respect myself and I want to have a long-lasting marriage.
Fiona*, 23 – accountant from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek foreign men
It’s very simple. I don’t like the political and economical situation in my country and the predominant values. I can have a good life in my country because I have fully adapted to living here. But when I think about life for my future children, I am terrified.
Valentina*, 25 – bookkeeper from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why Russian women don't want to marry Russian men
Russian men have very difficult characters… and the image of a wife as a woman… fragile… nice… don’t want to
disappoint them in the future. Foreign men, on the other hand, have different views (very different); they are able to love, and that’s the most important!
Anna*, 30 – economist from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I searched for a husband abroad
I have already met the man of my dreams and we are soon getting married) Hopefully in a couple of months)) He’s from London, with good manners and very calm, attentive, compassionate and caring. I believe those are the qualities that unfortunately some of our men don’t have, and which I value the most. I hope my answer will help you and thank you very much!
Olga*, 21 – post graduate student from Russia (never married, no kids): why I seek a foreign husband
I am not looking specifically for a foreign husband; I simply believe that my love can live anywhere and it’s very important not to miss it. I also enjoy talking to people from different cultures. I am interested in Scandinavia and learn Norwegian, so I am interested in meeting Northern European men.
Jane*, 31 - medical doctor from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek western men
Many of my friends met their partners through international dating sites and now are happily married; this is why I decided to give it a try, too. I am not interested in Russian men because of several reasons; the biggest of which was my 8-year relationship with a local man, causing lots of insecurities and self-esteem problems. I am tired of being “free” although there are some advantages as well; for example, I don’t have to pick up dirty socks “standing” in the corner or serve the man on his return home with a 3-course dinner, waiting on him and bringing him orderly the entrée, the main, the desert – all of this being dressed to tops and in full make-up, looking like a model, sexy and beautiful…
I may have somewhat euphoric image of foreign men, who are better looking and more family oriented as compared to the local men. I sincerely hope to meet a good and reliable man.
Kate*, 50 – accountant from USA (divorced with grown up children): why I am looking for a husband abroad
I am looking for a husband abroad because I live in America and want to find a husband here!
Lola*, 21 – student from USA (never married, no kids): why I want to meet an American man
It just happened that I came to the USA as a student and stayed here… so I am living in America for already a year!!! I have some experience of communication with American men and I feel that are good husbands, successful, are afraid of getting divorced and love their children!!
Diana*, 44 – system administrator from Russia (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why Russian women seek western men
I am 44. During my childhood, adolescence and early adulthood Russia was part of several wars: Vietnam, Afganistan (I have lost several of male classmates there); there were two wars in Chechnya, and some of men of my age were involved there, too. [Russia has a compulsory army service for males] Demographic research confirms that in Russia there are many more women of middle age than men.
I can’t say that I get no men’s attention. I look great and work as a system administrator, which means a predominantly male environment, but still! Many years after my divorce, I still could not find a partner. I am not looking for a prince. I love cooking and can do it well, can sew and knit, wear dresses and skirts (although it’s not the most comfortable gear for crawling under tables to sort out cables)) I work in a department with 12 men aged from 23 to 35, and I am 44:) In the computer division that are 100 people and most of them are men. In the whole company there are 300 people and I can tell you with confidence, there are NO suitable single or divorced men of my age. I am friends with younger men who show me photos of their girlfriends and ask for help in selecting gifts. I value these friendships and relationships BUT they are not candidates for love and marriage. And for me, love and marriage are the most important things in life.
I am registered on your site for some time and made several friends, but once again, it’s only a friendship. It’s been like this since I was young… all my relationships with men turn most often into friendships and very rarely into a romance. But I value these relationships as it’s a great language practice for me.
Thank you very much for your work!! I had been registered on 10 different sites but yours is the BEST, the KINDEST and the most HONEST! You treat your clients with respect and consideration. I am very grateful to you! Wishing you happiness and great success.
Irina*, 34 – teacher from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with 1 child): why I seek a husband abroad
I will be happy to answer. I want to find a husband abroad. Men abroad are more cultured, have better manners and value their relationships more. This is why I am seeking a husband abroad.
Marina*, 52 – retiree from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why I seek western men
I decided to seek a husband abroad because my daughter is married to a foreigner and my grandson lives there. I want to be closer to them and also I want to find a man who will make me happy and whom I can make happy. I had high hopes for your site but I don’t get any results and already don’t believe that it works; none of my letters gets any answers, only 'Polite NO's'. I still hope to find a partner and I am using your site because most of your men want to get married and it’s exactly what I am looking for, but it simply doesn’t seem to work for me. I wish you great success in your business and more happy marriages on your site! It’s wonderful that people meet each other.
Lena*, 50 – manager from Ukraine (university graduate, divorced with a grown up child): why I seek foreign men
Thank you for the chance to find my soul mate on your site. I decided to seek a husband abroad because I believe that foreign men value loyalty, care, love and family. They don’t drink as much as our men. I also feel that a man, who is financially secure and has a good job, can spend more time on his self-development and soul. I am looking for a man who would be interested in his spiritual growth, who wants to become a better person. The next reason, I don’t like living in Ukraine. I enjoy beautiful nature and I want to live in a beautiful country with a man I love and enjoy each other. I am well educated and have many good things in my life. But some time ago I realized that I could only be completely happy next to a man I love and who loves me. I believe in Love; I can and want to love, and I believe that I will find a good man. Thank you that you give us this opportunity and I wish you all the best in your life.
Ina*, 24 – psychologist from Russia (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I decided to seek a husband abroad
I decided to seek a husband abroad because some of my friends and colleagues married foreign men and now they have much better life and opportunities for studying, career and travel.
Dina*, 48 – interpreter from Russia (university graduate, divorced with no kids): Why Russian women seek foreign men
I decided to answer your question but it’s somewhat problematic. It’s hard to be a woman in Russia; especially if you are educated, intelligent and want your opinion to be considered. This happens everywhere – in business, education and of course personal life. This is why we have to put an effort and look for a foreign “prince”. Besides, I speak good English and understand men well. (What they truly are is another story.)
Valya*, 27 - banker from Ukraine (university graduate, never married, no kids): why I seek foreign men
Do you want to know why I decided to register on your site? I am 27. I have never been married but I really have bad luck with local Ukrainian guys… but let’s not talk about it. I was thinking about meeting a foreign man for a long time. I like the USA and not only because of movies but because of life style and the quality of life. I read about America and Americans a lot (unfortunately I haven’t had a chance to meet them personally) and I like their attitude to women and children (I am not talking about exceptions; there are marginal cases everywhere). I like the laws that protect and not harm. And most importantly, because I could not find my love here in Ukraine, I dream to find it abroad))) I came across your site by chance. On one of Internet forums there was a message from a girl who married an American man; she used your site. She says she is happy and there is nothing scary in the adaptation period. After talking to her, I decided to register on your site. I apologize for the long message; just tried to tell it as I feel.
* Not her real name
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