Stephen
66, Atlanta, United States

I know the following is a very long and may seem like a list of demands. It is not. My intent is to share qualities that I think I can offer you, and articulate things that I think are important to the success of a relationship. I will never expect perfection from you, just an honest effort. I think it is important to state this now because we are trying to determine if we are compatible in marriage, and I want our communication to lead to that, not be wasted trying to filter through otherwise empty words.

I am a hard working professional, and I generally like my job. I am involved with risk management, specifically handling medical malpractice and environmental/toxic tort matters. These are usually high exposure and complex claims, but I like the challenge. One thing I do not like is that I work from home. It gives me flexibility, but it is also a bit lonely at times.

I have few "close” friends, and to those that I consider close, I am loyal and would do almost anything for them. I am an experienced parent, I love children, and I am open to taking on your children as my own, if that be the situation. I try to stay physically fit, and I must have a mate that enjoys a healthy lifestyle and some form of fitness. I go for long rides on my bicycle, kick-box, and work out at the fitness center.

If you seriously want to know me, then I prefer you send me an E-mail and Skype. In our communication, I ask that we not waste our time with short notes. I write detailed letters, and I prefer that you write detailed letters and ask many questions, even if they are highly personal.

It is highly preferred that you read, write and speak at least an intermediate level of English. If you do not, please let me know your level of proficiency, and if writing you without translation is possible. I have visited Kiev, Lughansk, and been to Moscow, but only saw the airport area. I love Europe, and am eager to return to learn more.

I was not lucky with love, and I missed a lot not being near my children as they grew up. Fortunately, they are good children, and we have a good relationship. At this point in my life, I need and want someone sociable, sexy (at least to me), cheerful, openly very affectionate, intelligent, hard working, clean (personally and with their home), sensual, and mature enough to know how to focus on her relationship, understanding that all solutions are usually the product of some degree of compromise.

To elaborate further … 1) Cleanliness, they say, is next to godliness. For me, living in a clean home and having good personal hygiene is imperative. One of the highest forms of respect my mate can show me is to respect our home by working with me to make it comfortable. We should also take care of ourselves physically, by being clean, well groomed, and physically active and attractive. 2) Attitude. I am famous for saying that people make their own happiness, but I also recognize that negative influences erode our ability to maintain personal happiness. I must have a positive, reinforcing person in my life. If we are not willing to give 100% all of the time, then our risk of failure is great. 3) Money. Ideally, my mate should have a skill or profession, and want to work. I am not cheap, and I do not need a woman to provide for me. I will support her, and even help her find her professional place. I understand that family and raising children take priority, but in the USA, working helps assimilate us into the community, and establish friendships. It gives each person in the relationship a sense of belonging, independence, and contribution. A working spouse is my preference, but not mandatory. 4) Spirituality is a very important aspect of any relationship. I am not a religious man, but I am a Christian, and I am spiritual. People too often mistake the “church” for bricks and mortar. It is not. It is our collective souls. Ministers are mere teachers. The will of God is already inside us, and we can discover it if we are willing to listen to it. Our faith is a personal matter, and I respect all points of view, but a couple should have common core values. 5) Communication is vital, and I want someone with whom I can be completely open with and not have any secrets from. We need to be able to handle honesty. Honesty can be tough and at times painful, but it is never as painful as living the lie. We should be willing to discuss any subject, no matter if it is embarrassing, painful, or just difficult. For example, sex is a subject that many do not talk about. Perhaps that is why it is the second leading cause for divorce in the USA. Before we get too emotionally attached, we will need to engage in frank, open discussions about such subjects. I will never judge a person for what they believe. We are who we are. 6) Speaking of Sex/Sexuality, I am a firm believer in our mutual flirtation. We should seduce each other every day. We should never be jealous; it is a wasted emotion. I will show my mate that I appreciate her femininity, sensuality, sexuality, and affection. Open, constant affection goes a long way to keep the embers burning and our eyes focused on what we have with each other. I have no issue with my mate dressing in sexy attire, especially when we go out together. It is great for my ego to for her to be the envy of others, but I know that I have her heart! Through trust and creativity, we will never be tempted to look at another.

I am only communicating with someone whose profile makes me say “Wow, I would be proud to have her as my beloved.” We should not waste time and money with years of long letters. This is a two way commitment from the beginning. I am not going to "settle", but I am very serious in finding my love … maybe that is you? If so, we will meet within the next 6-8 months.

I have been to Ukraine twice and briefly set foot in Moscow (just around the airport). I also have friends from Russia, Poland, Ukraine and Turkey, so I appreciate the mentality and cultural style. I also know from my experience that many women on these sites are greedy, demand lavish gifts or convey some sad story to either get money, material things or to simply get someone to help them “escape” their situation. If this is you, please do not waste my time. I am here to find a loyal wife that I can trust. I want you to run to me, not away from your life. I am, by nature, a very generous person, but I am neither stupid nor blind. In our world materiality must be irrelevant.